Online dating with no pics - just your values?
I was always intrigued by the premise behind “Love Is Blind” - a reality show where singles try to find a match and fall in love -- without ever seeing each other face-to-face, as emotional connection attempts to conquer physical attraction. Full disclosure, I don’t watch TV so I haven’t seen an episode but still, the notion of moving beyond physical appearance and chemistry feels simultaneously intriguing and super risky.
Then @Drew Taylor Cohen caught my attention with a post detailing her experience when building her @Bumble profile strictly on words stating her chosen values.
NO perfect selfies.
NO predictable prompts that yield, “I love to hike, travel, cook, walk my dogs and go wine tasting.”
NO eggplant emojis.
Just the personal values she attempts to live by. (Oh, and one picture of her at a distance to prevent being flagged as a bot).
@Drew Taylor Cohen is an Impact Consultant and Values Coach, so we talked about how to identify our own chosen values and distinguish them from our beliefs and identities (something I rooted myself in historically). We also discuss the challenges of seeking validation from others while navigating personal choices and the need for self-awareness and the evolving nature of values as individuals grow and change.
What an awesome conversation especially as I consider something similar in my own dating journey. Anyone relate? Join the conversation…
Guest Bio:
Trained in holistic, neurodiverse and values-aligned coaching techniques, Drew helps singles and couples break old patterns and align their values to find lasting love.
Dedicated to finding love that felt soul-aligned and safe, she set out on a personal development journey that led her to discover her values and trust her needs and desires. What did she do next? She created a dating profile with no photos, just screenshots of her values and how she envisioned them being shared in an aligned partnership. And it worked! Her fiancé and her just celebrated four years of swiping right on the things that matter most.
Through 1:1 coaching, she now helps her clients rewrite their own values-aligned love story and clarify what truly matters in love. Her aligned love method is about prioritizing your non-negotiables and curating love that mirrors the truth of who you already are.
She also developed and leads the Live Authentically program. This workshop and accompanying workbook uses a proven framework that guides participants to explore who you are, discover your chosen values and pursue an aligned life.
When she’s not helping people align their relationships and life to their values, she’s supporting purpose-driven organizations as a freelance impact consultant. Drew leverages her expertise through operations, strategy and impact communications work.
Website:
https://www.chosendirections.com/
Instagram:
https://instagram.com/chosendirectionscoaching
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drew-taylor-cohen/
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